The Great G-Spot Expedition

"I DON'T HAVE ONE!" Ladies, I have heard this way too often, that the G-Spot is a myth or doesn't exist or that it just can't be found. Here is an article by Metis Black who details how and where to next? Happy reading and ultimately happy times!

Why do most people have a hard time finding the G-Spot? I have a theory: most people miss the g-spot because manufacturers make toys 6 inches in length with a hook at the end, call it a g spotter and you, as consumers, go home and put that toy all the way in; missing the glands completely. You're looking for it too far back.

The vagina doesn't have many sensitive nerve endings toward the back where the cervix lies. If we were sensitive back there we probably would have died out as a species giving birth.
During traditional vaginal sex it's the labia that are most stimulated by a dildo or a penis. The labia have legs of nerves, the crura, which lead back up to the clitoris. The internal vaginal hot spot, which is an exception to the rule, is the g-spot.

The G-spot is a series of glands within a sponge that protects the urethra. Up to 40 glands make up the G-Spot. How sensitive the sponge, or a spot on it is, varies from woman to woman. Every woman has a urethral sponge thus every woman has a g-spot.

It is approximately 1 to 3 inches inside the front wall of the vagina, near the urethra opening, at a 12 o-clock position. For some women, pressure on the sponge causes a feeling that they need to pee. They may need to rethink that sensation to totally enjoy their G-spot.

When you begin to palpate the g-spot, the glands lie flat- there isn't a way to tell if you've found them other than via verbal responses or body responses.

The roof of the vagina is similar to the roof of your mouth, more fleshy but similar. There is a ridge with two soft valleys on either side of it. When trying to locate the glands for the first time, you want to use two fingers spread slightly and use a come hither motion. The glands may be right up under the pubic bone or it may be further back depending on her structure. This is not as sensitive an area as a clitoris or a prostate, more vigorous movement needs to be applied. What you're doing is actually milking the glands.

Because of the density of multiple glands a hook tipped toy is ideal for G-Spot stimulation.
100% Silicone, besides being superior hygienically, having no open pores to harbor bacteria, boilable and bleachable in a 10% solution, doesn't have and phthalates or other allergens that cause body reactions such as inflammation, rash or discharge. Last thing you want to do is play with a toy one night and be off limits for a week after. Silicone is the safest soft material in the marketplace. Though buyers beware, there's no regulation on sex toys they are sold as novelties. Something marked silicone can have a small percentage. When silicone is put in a hybrid mix, it usually has an odor and it has none of the benefits silicone offers.

Many women claim a vaginal orgasm is completely different than a clitoral orgasm; but most women have never experienced a vaginal orgasm alone. Clitoral stimulation in combination with G-Spotting is the most effective way to stimulate a woman to a vaginal orgasm.
Anytime you're putting anything so close next to the bloodstream the chemical makeup and potential health concerns should be a factor.

If you can smell a toy- it's leaching chemicals. The reactions from both latex and toys with phthalate softeners (plasticizers) are often inflammation and redness from the skin it comes in contact with. In the vagina it often mimics a yeast infection with a thick discharge as well. If a customer plays with a toy and is out of commission after that for a week, it's going to cut into your bottom line regarding lubricant, condoms and lingerie. It also may make them reconsider their buying more toys.

Silicone is the safest soft material currently in the market. It's hypoallergenic, hygienic with no open pores to harbor bacteria and able to be boiled, bleached or put into the dishwasher. The one disadvantage of silicone is that the technology isn't as advanced as other casting techniques.
When a customer start talking of G-Spot stimulation remember to think lube! Using a lubricant actually helps stimulate a woman's own natural lubricant.

And speaking of a woman's natural lubricant, g-spot stimulation often causes female ejaculation. Physicians in ancient Greece were aware of the existence of glands around the female urethra that produced prostatic like fluid- there is nothing new about female ejaculation. It's showing up more often in porn in books and perhaps in questions in your stores.

The key to female ejaculation is:
*Make certain the urethra isn't blocked by hands or toys.
*Being comfortable about making a mess in bed. Having a towel near can help with the fear of "wetting the bed."
*The immediate difference between peeing and ejaculating is the scent. The woman will sometimes get an urge to pee during stimulation and when this happens, the fluid released will most likely not be urine.
*Repetitive stimulation of the glands to build up the fluids within- Toys are perfect tools for "milking" the glands.
*Her bearing down on her pelvic floor muscles.
*Not feeling pressure to perform. If you don't squirt- there's always next time and wasn't fun just practicing.

The g-spot is located at the 12 o-clock position about a fingers length in. Now with you forefinger and your index finger up at the roof of her vaginal wall you'll feel ridges sort of like the roof of your mouth, where you want to stroke with your fingers is the soft flesh between the ridges- one finger on either side. With your fingers curled in a "come hither" motion you want to repeatedly "milk" the glands. If you listen you may actually be able to hear the liquid building and sloshing. You will also feel the glands get larger and more distinct (same as a prostate does) as it's stimulated. If you push outside on the pelvis (for me the spot is to the left a little), or if she bears down (like a sit up) she will release a stream of ejaculate that is absolutely magical.

Article by Metis Black from Tantus Incorporated

Above Image is from Macros Chin - One of the most well regarded fashion illustrators in North America.

Barbara Walters on Vibrators... "They're a necessity not a luxury"

During the week Babsie Walters mentioned on The View in a discussion about luxury items, that for Joy a vibrator was not a luxury good, but a necessity. Then Sherry another Viewess holla'd, you've got a boyfriend why do you need one? Babs and Joy agreed this had nothing to do with anything and were laughing and rejoicing in the riskay yet clearly defiant statement by Barb.

The next day on the breakfast show Morning Joe, their hosts were discussing the clip from The View. The men took the stance that Babs can do what she wants as she is who she is and fellow hostess Mika said she was disgusted that Walters would have discussed such things, exclaiming "that is just not right." I say do what you do BABSIE, clearly you've got it under control.

In reaction to the Morning Joe disgust, the ladies on The View weren't impressed although weren't really phased. However Barbara did mention Mika's faced look like a 'a sour apple' while discussing what had been said. While Joy simply declared, “I don’t understand why people get embarrassed by things that are just sexual - I don’t understand it. It’s like eating, drinking, sleeping - it’s sex, it’s about sex, what’s the big deal about it?”

Watch ALL relevant videos here - Babs is my BFF today.

BELATED INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY CELEBRATION

"Feminism is a socialist, anti-family, political movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism and become lesbians." – Pat Robertson (American televangelist, Republican, husband and father), 1994.

Ladies! International Women’s Day was last weekend – March 8^th, and while this article would have been good to read beforehand, it still serves a purpose.

IWD is one day when we come together to celebrate equality and liberation as a collective, compare potions and shave our heads, as per above quote. I ‘m just kidding when I say compare potions and whatnot – although my big hair is my greatest asset. The day also reminds us that the greater ideal is to continue to celebrate and fight for justice for women everywhere. Perhaps leaving out the boys occasionally is a productive day for modern bluestockings, and should happen more than once a year.

It only seemed like yesterday when I pulled up the beanbag to watch Mary Poppins and my stomach would tickle with 7-year-old excitement as Mrs Banks would prance into the house singing Sister Suffragette. I’d like to mention to all you worried men out there that Mrs Banks does say, “we do adore men individually… but as a group we think they’re ra-ther stu-pid”. Oh, I just had flashback to Fevola prancing around Federation Square with a plastic penis hanging out of his pants.

The headline should have read: FEVOLA IS A TOSSA, but it didn’t, it read, “AFL star hurls fake penis at women.” He makes the front page again and a few months later no one can actually find the article that tells us a woman has been appointed the deputy education minister of women’s education in Saudi Arabia, which is groundbreaking news. “It won’t make a difference”, says one Saudi expert on women’s rights but it is “a small step in the right direction” she says.

Let me reiterate that although things are generally good - i.e. we can choose any career we want - in a lot of cases it’s still a boys club and it’s pretty tough for a young woman trying to break stereotypes. We band together for good times but sometimes we have mishaps … flashback to a hen’s night I watched parade down Chapel Street in barely any clothes with penis’s hanging around their necks, just last month.

Ultimately, we can forge our own paths and women’s rights are 10 times better than they were when we were bubs. Yet, as career choices and good times are plentiful, we are still highly under-represented on the work, political and media stages and we still get paid less that our male counterparts - not to mention I’d be beaten, gagged and locked up for writing an article like this in some countries.

I’m finding roadblocks are inevitable, especially when trying to break taboos in my chosen line of work. I own a lifestyle/sexuality brand, (Mia Muse) which immediately grabs people’s attention. Then I explain a little further what it’s about, I get a few laughs and yes, it becomes awkward. I do have to get used to this if I want to make a difference and succeed with the purpose of owning a retail space where women can feel comfortable and confident in expressing their sexuality and sensuality; one which allows them to communicate honestly with themselves and their partners providing a base for the best relationship possible.

I hosted a party for my business, which is similar to that of Tupperware but it’s for the bedroom not the kitchen, which was talked about on radio. This was a big chance for the right image to be conveyed. After a 10-minute chat in which I was not involved, my business sounded like it was a porn store. At times like these achieving my goals seem hard. Then I look at the positives and the greater vision, and take it only as half-a-step back.

I’ve also been at a dinner table with a 76-year-old man, who asked, “What do you do?” I tried to explain that while I sell high-end vibrators the greater goal is to promote confidence in our sexual beings, his response was, “…well, that’s a rather altruistic view on sex”. I vowed to avoid dinners with my great aunt’s friends from then on.

So, although International Women’s Day was last weekend and most of us where unaware of that, take this is a reminder that we should recognise IWD regularly. It is not time to reflect on the negative or invite Debbie Downer to your house for dinner, rather a time to inspire our female ideals to celebrate and collaborate.

So in true adoring fashion, we refer again to Mrs Banks, “our daughter’s daughters will adore us as we sing in grateful chorus” and we certainly will.

This Sunday my friends and I are having a picnic in the park to come together, drink some bubbly, talk ideas and collect some coin for Oxfam’s Close the Gap campaign all while singing tunes to celebrate the ‘sisterhood’. You should too.

P.S If you didn’t catch on, mainly you Mr Pat Robertson (from above quote), feminism is about doing what you can to make sure every woman you know feels equal and empowered and nurtures this in her own space, her relationships and her life’s journey.

GOOD VS EQUAL

Catherine Deveny shares her witty thoughts on WHY we should be celebrating International Women’s Day this Sunday March 8th. Get on board LADIES!

'...I'm wearing camouflage after my seven-year-old son handed me a tampon and said, "Here's one of your vagina bullets"'.

Cedric Rivrain and his fashion illustrations

These illustrations of the Runway ladies by Cedric Rivrain are beautiful and soft, I particulary like this one - it's called Muse.